A shocking 92% agreed with this statement: “Don’t sacrifice your personality for the love” That’s scary. What times we live in that people are putting themselves and not others first in life.
Here’s how i wrote for my comment:
Love is all about sacrifice. Love is you before me. One must be adaptive to have a loving relationship. Putting your personality ahead of loving is like putting yourself at a higher priority than someone else. Love is putting others higher than yourself. Please do not bown down to the cult of your own personality. Instead please learn how to love and adapt yourself to love.
Do you agree or disagree? Don’t sacrifice your personality for the love.
Please leave your thoughts in the comments below.
I certainly don’t think you should sacrifice your personality for anything! I don’t really believe that people change and trying to change your personality is probably the most difficult thing to do. Your personality is who you are, if you change, is the other person really falling in love with you or with some manufactured version of yourself that you think other people will love? You are a special and unique person and there are people who will unconditionally love you for that. Never change for anyone.
I too, don’t think you should sacrifice your personality and core beliefs for someone. Now don’t get me wrong, of course meeting new people and having close relationships with these people, you will learn something news, and exchange ideas and you will change
I agree with Tom and Astro. Sure, we may do things that we don’t necessarily want to do for someone we love (sacrifice), but the vibe I got from this quote is you should never sacrifice your true self — your personality, your beliefs — for someone. I would sacrifice city life if my hubby really wanted to move to the ‘burbs, but I wouldn’t change my personality to suit him. Just as I don’t expect him to change his core self for me 😀
I greatly appreciate everyone’s thoughts on this. One thing though… don’t we all have flaws in our personalities? There are things that we could do better. That is part of the joy of having a partner, is that you can both improve each other as life goes on. Kinda like iron sharpening iron. It’s not always the easiest process, but a couple should be able to help each other grow. And how is that done? It’s done primarily through love. I also like to see it in this framework: Which is the greatest of these? Love or personality?
Are you talking about changing your personality completely? As in, all your life you’ve loved puppies, then you meet someone who doesn’t like puppies and suddenly you hate them? That’s not cool. Everyone should like puppies 😀 I don’t believe in completely changing your personality to appease someone else. I do, however, believe you can change different facets of your personality as you grow and learn from one another. True story: I grew up in a household where my dad totally overreacted about every little thing. Everything was a crisis, and I ended up inheriting some of that negative personality trait, too. That’s part of what I love about my hubby: he’s very cool, calm and collected. Eventually, he taught me that I don’t have to be so uptight about things, which helped me blossom into the ravishing person I am today (haha!) Today’s lesson? Relax and hug a puppy.
I think we are approaching a line where we are comparing apples to oranges. What I’m starting to hear is more about compromise than it is about love or changing your personality. A dog lover may never get another dog because his wife doesn’t like dogs, but that’s compromise. He loves his wife enough not to own another dog, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love dogs anymore.
hmmm, Is it personality that defines love or is it love that defines personality.
“One thing though… don’t we all have flaws in our personalities?” Yes. We can try to help others overcome these flaws, but in the end, it is up to the person to do the changing. If they don’t want to, then part of loving someone is dealing with their imperfections. Besides, you won’t be able to work on your own shortcomings if you are always focusing on those of others. 🙂
Personality changes whenever you learn something new, discover a new thought or idea, go through life’s tragedies….and joys… Sacrificing is a giving up…to quit or throw away something…? I believe that when you love someone you change, you grow together.
well i think that u are absoultly right.love should be grown up togethr.both persons shouldn’t be demanding with each other.i did secrificed a lot with my love….but he wanted a lot from my side and i modified my self a lot for him because a that time i felt i should do that…i is nesecerry for healthy love bonding.but he couldn’t realized my self.and finelly he got married wd other girl.n at that time i got the result that if ur partner has dicided to break up the relation then u can’t stop him/her eithir how much u modified n secrificed ur personlity.REGARD……………THANKS